I posted a couple of days ago on mean girls, but I decided there’s more to this story.
Girls are mean to one another and they learn the mean from mean Moms and other women. Some girls are raised on mean and some learn it to survive in mean girl world.But girls grow up and the mean get’s less evident but it’s still there.
I’m blessed to have LOTS of women in my life. I work with women, mother two young women, teach women, minster and speak before groups of women. I have lots of women in my life and they are all different. There are some who are outgoing and boisterous, others are shy and quiet, some are my age and older and others are young women and some young Moms. I LOVE each one of them and I love them for their differences.
But there’s some mean among these women and it BREAKS my heart. Yes, you read that right. Even among my Christian women there is some mean — and it’s tearing us apart.
It’s one thing to be hurt by a women who does NOT profess to be a follower of Christ, but to be hurt by someone who declares she loves the Lord and tries to live by His example — that hurts. A lot. I’m not talking about someone forgetting to wish you a happy birthday or rushing by you without saying hello — that’s not intentional mean (usually it’s not), that’s forgetfulness and busyness. What I’m talking about is intentional mean — gossip, backbiting, cruel comments, and I could go on but I’m certain you know what mean looks like.
I’ve been on the receiving end and on the giving end. I hope to never be a mean girl again and with the Lord’s help, I won’t be. I can’t help if someone chooses to be mean to me, but I can change how I respond to the mean. I don’t want to let that bother me. Someone’s thoughts or comments on me do NOT change who I am in Christ. And beyond that, I MUST continue to love her…. yes, even the mean girl.
“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:34-35
We girls are a powerful force for the Lord, but we have to stop focusing on our differences and look to Him for guidance. We have to stand together in love and in support of one another. Let’s link arms and serve the Lord together.
How do we stop the mean?
What are your suggestions? Ideas? Stories?