I’ve heard it all before… teen role model goes from sweet to tart overnight. Last week I heard all the talk of Miley Cyrus and her new video. Moms were all manner of upset that Hannah Montana had gone from the adorable girl to gyrating video queen over night.
I reserved judgment until I watched it – I spent three minutes and 49 seconds watching this 17 year old young woman dressed up in bird feathers, banging on the bars of some oversized, bizarre bird cage, singing about how she ‘can’t be tamed, can’t be blamed, and can’t be saved.’ Inappropriate. Yes. Sad. Even more so.
This is a 17 year old child. She may look like a woman and she may even dance like a woman, but she is a child. She may live life in the fast lane. But she is a child. Someone – in authority – had to look at this video and announce they were fine with her performance. And that’s when I get mad.
Someone had to look at this feathered, gyrating, over-sexualized mess of a video and announce they were good with it – and that someone was her parents. She is 17! They had the right to stop this from ever happening. My question is why didn’t they?
As parents it’s our job to stop our kids from making incredibly stupid mistakes. This doesn’t mean we will always succeed, but we should at LEAST TRY! I’ve read the interviews that tell of Miley given free reign to be creative. There’s creative and then there’s trashy. It’s our job to help them make good decisions even when they don’t like it.
I think Mr.& Mrs. Cyrus failed this child. She depends on the two of them for direction and discernment. Certainly, she has managers, handlers, and all kinds of other ‘ers’ to help her career, but her parents have but one job – LOVE her. And in that love they are to help her make good decisions. Sometimes that help comes in the form of denying a request. So what if she wants to express her creativity. She can do that without the gyrating and thrusting – and without the trashy metal corset.
What will she think of this video in years to come. Will she regret her decision to put something so overtly sexual out for all the world to see?
I made some STUPID mistakes as a young woman and I regret them. The difference in me and Miley (beyond the host of obvious ones) is there’s no film footage of my stupidity. Sadly, Miley will always have this music video.
So before we all jump on the “bad Miley” bandwagon, think about the mistakes you made when you were a teenager. Think about the ones your parents stopped you from making.
This is just a teenage girl with way to much authority in her decisions and who is sorely lacking adults to help her walk the road from childhood to adulthood. She breaks my heart.
So what are your thoughts on the Miley Cyrus ‘Can’t Be Tamed’ video?
Preach it my sister! When I first saw the video, I am almost positive my mouth was WIDE open for 3:49 seconds!!
I am sad her parents seems to have failed their CHILD and don’t appear to be anywhere in the decision making process.
There is no way in Aunt Helen’s world that I would ever let my 17 year old appear in a video looking like that. And I am pretty sure I don’t want my 8 year old seeing Miley looking and acting like that!!
Tsk, tsk, tsk.
Amen and great post! What is sad to me about Miley is how her Achey-Breaky Dad is trying to promote and evolve her to be what he wanted to achieve. I always wonder if she herself ever wanted any of it.
I do covet her boots from her Party in the USA video (just feeling the need to confess–LOL).
Not only the trashy metal corset but also the bird “orgy” going on throughout the video….ugh…disgusting. Yes, I made some some stupid mistakes as a teenager but I didn’t have much guidance then….I’m just glad I wasn’t famous….ha
Don’t even get me started. Let Miley and Billy Ray do what they want, but do me a favor? Leave Jesus out of it? At the risk of sounding like a Pharisee, I really do not expect unbelievers to act like it but if you call yourself by the name of Christ, then for Pete’s sake at least keep your clothes on.
And that’s all I have to say about that. 🙂
I keep comparing Miley to Brittney…so very sad.
I’m about to pop over this and a few other issues of the like. Thank you for speaking straight to my heart tonight.
I wrote about my possible pop on my blog today. Your blog confirmed I must be a voice for others. No matter what they say or think…
Signed: Sad, sad and more sad over the stuff I see happening in the youth of our nation.
love your heart, Mary. Shout out!
Girl, you are SO on point with this!!! We see all kinds of crazy things going on while working in youth ministry. And certainly, there are things beyond parents’ control. But sexy videos are not usually.
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I had to go find the video & watch it to see what you were talking about & You’re right on Mary!!
I think the parental control in her life and especially in this video, is due to something that I see DAILY!! It reminds me of all those parents who dress there little toddlers, preschoolers & little girls up in short skirts, halter tops, and too “Sexy” clothing because they think that “it’s just soo cute!” It drives me NUTS & makes me SICK and I can’t stand it.
So many mothers dress up their little girls in clothing that IS NOT age appropriate because they think it’s just so darn cute. Or it’s because they themselves can no longer pull the look off and are living vicariously through their little daughters. I see it all the time here around the DFW area. I have had to hold my tongue so many times.
I can see that through this whole video. I know that mom has to be on the other side of that screen saying, “doesn’t she look so good & all grown up?” UGH!!!
Very true. It is true that the parents responsibility is huge! My husband and I were talking just today, and Lady Gaga came up in our conversation. A biz magazine (Fast Company or Inc) ranked her #1 in creativity and success of this last year. My husband checked out a video…. it disturbed me just hearing about it!!!
The biggest thing I take away, aside from obviously living up to my responsibilities as a parent of raising my child up in the Lord…. was this…. I can NOT stay in my bubble any more. I have enjoyed living in a bubble of blocking a lot of this “WORLD” out. But hearing about “Miley”…. then Lady Gaga… along with her over 3 million followers on Twitter…. it is quite the wake up call… there are people out there that ARE going to have an impact on this generation if the righteous do not raise up to do it!
It is time we Rise up!!!
Blessings to you! Thanks for the wake up call! 🙂
Amy
Actually…. 4.2 MILLION followers on twitter for Lady Gaga.
It’s time that the RIGHTEOUS raise up to IMPACT THE WORLD!
Girl. This is an intervention. You have not posted in 3 weeks. That is not right. What’s going ON???